HAPPY FATHER'S DAY

This post is dedicated to Men.  I was watching the movie Black Dynamite and I realized that some men would rather die than to have a little love stick.  (Yes, I do know the technical terms for these words, I am just in the mood to keep it teenage friendly, so work with me.)  This is going to be the topic for today and I will start with the mind.

I first have to say that I am not a man.  I do not want to be a man.  I have not walked on this earth as a man.  I do love and respect our men.  I love Angie Stone's song Brotha.  She says it all for me.  Having a son has opened my eyes to some of the challenges men go through and how some of those challenges are brought on by us women who do not understand the power that we have.  Because I want my son to become a respectful, loving man and husband, I have had to look at men in a different way. 

I always thought that men were strong and kind.  They did not have feelings that could get hurt.  You know, "man up", "men don't cry", and all of that.  Boy oh boy, that was a belief I had to get rid of with a quickness.  Given that, let’s talk about some of the issues that can effect a man’s love stick and maybe how to crank things up a notch.

Men, understand that the world has been telling you a bunch of lies.  You have been told that you should be able to stiffen up at just the sight of the woman’s pleasure box.  You have been told that all pleasure boxes are good pleasure boxes and it really doesn’t matter how you feel about the woman.  The truth is your feelings and emotions can affect your ability to perform.  They have been telling you a bunch of lies, lies, lies.  So please don’t beat yourself up (no pun intended) when you are not at the best of your performance level at every session.  What I do want you to do, is realize that because you may be feeling a certain way about your day, the job, the bills, this nagging woman at home, etc. your body will be effected as well.  For those of you who have been active in the bedroom arena, think back on your best sessions and on your worst.  I bet during your best sessions your mind was free and you were able to be the beast master in the bedroom.  And likewise on your worst session you had so much on your mind you were basically just going through the motions and really didn’t care if you or your partner crossed the finish line.  Now let’s take this a little deeper.

What happens when you have been in a long term relationship with the right person (only The Creator can help you if you are with the wrong person)?  All of the crazy sessions have turned into “am I gonna even get to look at the pleasure box this week?” or “Man, that 20% over there (I think the new term is THOT) is starting to look like 60%.”  LOL…Chris Rock said to recycle the P.  Lol…but first you may need to recycle your mindset.  You have been with this woman long enough to know how to get passed her drama and get into the pleasure box.  Give yourselves a commitment to have a weekend together every three months.  You need this to recharge yourself and to get the extra conversation out of your minds for a while.  It doesn’t have to be extravagant; a weekend in the local hotel will work just as well as sending the kids away and spending the weekend with the phone off and the legs in the air.  Both of you need to remember what is was like to be attractive again and to be wanted by your mate.  These weekends help keep that burning.  If you are one of those types of guys who has a hard time letting go of the thoughts of providing, the job, the bills, etc. please find you a relaxing herb for this special occasion.  FREE YOUR MIND AND THE REST WILL FOLLOW! 

If you are in pretty good shape and you find that the love stick has turned into a love noodle, it may not be something physical with you; it may be that your partner has hurt you so much or messed with your emotions in such a negative way that you are simply no longer physically attracted to her.  You might be fooling yourself, but as they say the love stick has a mind of it’s own sometimes.  And it is not trying to mind your partner anymore.  That said, do some deep work and a little percolating on when the love stick rises to the occasion.  If you get a rise watching a porno, a girl walking down the street or any other situation, your love stick works just fine.  It is mental.  GREAT!….You don’t have to take a bullet.  All you have to do now is some mind work, get rid of that chick or recycle the pleasure box.  Do what feels right for you and please stay true.  Don’t use this as an excuse to be mean or it will not work. 

Now, for those with diabetes, high blood pressure, a physical issues or on pharmaceuticals, there are herbal ways to help with this.  You have to do more mental work of course because of the thoughts and feelings that come with your body not performing the way you want it.  The rest of this blog will have a few herbs and tricks to help in this area.

Without beating a dead horse, I must mention first, that a cleanse of the kidney, liver, colon and lungs for those who need that, should be done with the help of an experienced practitioner.  Remember that we are talking about blood flow and circulation as well as hormonal balance.  If you want a faster response, these things need to be cleaned out, especially the blood.  I am sure you have heard this before and know of ways to do this.  If not let me know and we can go over some plans specifically for you. 

USE THE KNOWLEDGE OF YOUR BODY TO DETERMINE HOW MUCH AN HERB TO TAKE AND WHICH HERB YOU THINK WILL WORK FOR YOU.  LISTEN TO YOUR FIRST MIND. 

Click on the highlighted words to see a website with more detailed information.

Calming Herbs:

• Medical Marijuana:  if you live in a state where this is legal, then get some and stop tripping.  I am sure I don’t need to go into details of its calming effects.  For medicinal purpose I believe the edible form is best and last longer.  Please be cautious on edibles because they will sneak up on you.  They can take anywhere from 30 minutes to 4 hours before you feel anything.  The kick is totally based on the individuals digestion system.  I would like to mention that it has a lot of healing power if you get the strands that are higher in CBD than in THC.
  
• Kava Kava Root:  not to be taken with alcohol, anti-depressants, dopamine drugs.  This herb has been used for centuries in the South Pacific.  This herb produces a calming in the brain and is not addictive.  Some suggest taking 250 mg of kavalactones per day, three days per week taking a week off after a month.
• Ashwagandha:  Ashwagandha is an Indian herb used for ongoing chronic stress. Ashwagandha root rejuvenates without being over stimulating.  Suggested dosages range from 300mg-6000mg per day divided into three dosages. 

• St. John’s Wort:  Used to treat sleep disorders, depression and anxiety for centuries.  Suggested dosages range from 300mg to 1,800mg broken into two-three daily dosages.      

Testosterone Herbs:

this is a very short list of a very long herb class.  My three favorites for now.

• Fo-Ti Root:  Also known as He sho wu, ho shou wu and other names in China.  Again this is an herb that has been used for centuries for increasing energy, longevity, and fertility.  Suggested dosages range from 3g to 18g per day divided into three dosages.
       
• Maca Root: A form of ginseng, this root has been known to increase stamina, libido, and sperm production.  I got one of my husbands to try this herb and he experienced a very powerful release.  And he didn’t need to take the herb for three months before he had results.  I think it was only a day or two.  Suggested dosages range from 1500mg-2400mg per day divided into three dosages. 
  
• Tribulis Terrestris:  An herb from India it has been used as an aphrodisiac and to increase testosterone levels.  Suggested dosages range from 400mg-2,000mg per day divided into three dosages.

For those with pre-existing health issues, these herbs may take a few weeks before results will be noticeable.  Since your body will be in a place of lack it will take a minute for the lack to be satisfied and the extra benefits from the herbs will be noticed. 

I make several blends for hormonal balance for my clients if you are interested in some of the results and would like to know more about these blends, let me know.  I also have a few books - the G Spot Massage, Healing with Sexual Energy, and a couple of Penis Enlargement books - on the Books page of this blog.

FUN THINGS

Now if you have certain beliefs, like missionary position is the only way to reach the finish line then you are putting yourself in sexual bondage, and not the fun kind.  Every part of your skin has nerves attached to it and if touched properly, these nerves can make your toes crinkle.  Expand Your Foundation to ALL of the possibilities in the bedroom.  Create an environment of freedom.  Leave the judgements on the other side of the door.  If you are not ready to do that, please don't read the rest of this.  You will be wasting your time and calling me freaky, lol.

• Vibrators:  Some of you may be familiar with using vibrators on your partner, but I am telling you that they can be used on you as well.  Allow your TRUSTED partner to place the vibrator on that spot right below the sac, at the base of the love stick while she is going for a ride.  Or have her place the vibrator on her check while she is licking the big stick.  Use your imagination.  You can have vibratorial fun too.
• Food:  Honey, cool-whip, caramel, etc. can all be placed on, around, and in between the love stick, chest, back of knees, basically whatever turns you on.  Frozen fruits can be quite pleasurable.  Just imagine what it would feel like going into a pleasure box that has ice chips or frozen cherries. This is a new meaning to busting a cherry.  What a wonderful time to go on an expedition of sensual pleasures.

• Fantasy/Dress-Up:  This one is open for all interpretations.  You must create a freedom in the bedroom for this to be pleasurable.  Do a strip tease dance for her and maybe she will ride your pole when you are done.  Let her come home to a clean house and seduce her before she can even put her purse down.  I think you can figure out other things that might work for you.

I think that will do for now.  The marriage bed shall not be defiled.  What you do in the privacy of your bed with your wife is all good.  Judgment Free, Guilt Free, and God Blessed.  I LOVE MARRIAGE....oops, got a little carried away.  Now it is your turn!!!

Have fun exploring the new ways your love stick can fulfill the pleasure box.

PEACE.